Sometimes if you're right, you're still wrong. How badly do you feel the need to defend yourself? Do you find yourself trying to prove you're right even when it doesn't really matter? Sometimes proving that you're right can actually make the situation worse, not better.
I had a boss a number of years ago who loved to try to prove himself right all the time, even when he was wrong. I wouldn't argue with him because he was the boss, and even if I convinced him that I was right, he would have made me pay for it in the long run. So I kept my mouth shut.
I started thinking a lot about why it was so important for him to prove himself right. He owned the company. His name was on the building. He made over a million dollars a year. What was he trying to prove? I finally realized that in spite of his position and income, he was extremely insecure. He was trying to compensate for his own insecurity by proving himself right all the time.
The next time you find yourself trying to prove that you're right about something that doesn't really matter, think about why you're doing it. What are you trying to prove? Can it be enough to just know that you're right, even if the people around you don't?
If it doesn't matter, try to let it go. See if you can feel better about yourself regardless of what other people think.
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