I'd rather be optimistic and always expect the best from people. Sure, I'll sometimes be let down, but consider the alternative. I could be cynical, and then every time something bad happens I would feel justified in my cynicism.
The problem with expecting the worst all the time is that you won't be able to see the good things when they happen. We have a tendency to see what we expect, regardless of what is actually there. So if you expect all bad, that's what you'll see.
Sometimes I feel silly when I get let down. I feel like I should have seen it coming. But then I also feel like there are more times that I expect good things to happen, and then they do.
This doesn't mean that you should just trust everyone all the time.You have to trust your instincts about people. If you have a bad feeling about someone, then you trust your judgement. Instincts are very strong, and you should trust yours. But if you're always expecting bad things, then your judgement is already on hold.
Keep expecting the best. You'll be wrong sometimes, but you'll be so much happier in the long run.
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